Fastest Way to Change

If your relationships are not working, here’s a fast way to create change. Notice: this will first create change in you. The changes in you will be noticed by others and create a pathway for God to work in them. It removes you from being part of the problem and makes you part of the solution. It’s like the “rock in the pond”. You throw a rock into a pond. The rock enters at just one point, but the ripple effect is felt all throughout the pond. Let God change you through submission to Him and the ripple effect will be felt by everyone around you. While I can guarantee that everyone will notice and have to respond to the changes in you, I cannot guarantee that everyone will change for the better. But, this is the fastest way to find out what is going to happen in your relationships and the quickest and surest way to your peace.

Submission to God requires:

Humility: I agree with God’s assessment of who I am.

Repentance: I turn away from lies, attitudes, actions, and outlooks that do not reflect God’s Word.

Release: I release my relationships to the power and authority of God. I stop trying to change others and I stop judging them.

Obedience: I put all my energies into seeing myself become a Spirit walking, Word obeying, child of God.

No Rationalizing or Denying: I give up denying my sinful behavior or rationalizing my sins because of what others have done to me or because of bad circumstances.

If you use this as another manipulation technique to get others to do what you want, this will fail. But, if you do it because it is the right thing to do for you, then you have a chance to see God restore you and everything around you!


I like “great experience” as much as the next person. It is always wonderful when a great “epiphany” moment occurs in life and you leap forward in your growth and knowledge as a person. Epiphanies are often used to bring us to a point of change… experience that not only is “felt” but changes the way we think and live in a fundamental way.

As a fellow passenger and observer in life, I’ve also seen people begin to chase transformation through experience. What I mean is this: some people go from one place to another seeking an experience that will provide a fundamental transformation needed to make life better. You’ve seen it – going from one meeting to the next, endless listening to and reading the latest “revelation”……….all in an attempt to bring about an experience that will cause life to change.

Romans 12:1-2 describes the transformation process:

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

There are a couple of things that I would like to point out about transformation in this verse:

  1. Transformation comes through total submission to Christ. Many people don’t trust God enough to present their lives as a sacrifice. But the scripture says that because of God’s mercies, we can give ourselves to Him. He will deal with us out of His love and desire for what is best for us. But, to see true transformation, we must be willing to have our understanding adjusted. Due to control issues and a lack of trust in anyone, this is the point at which many stumble.
  2. Transformation comes through a process called “the renewal of the mind”. This means that your mind is taken, in its current state, and it is changed through the process of the confrontation of lies and the establishment of truth. Notice the word “process”. An epiphany will occur now and then during this process but they usually don’t happen through our continuous struggle but through our submission to the place and process of God.

I’m a believer in transformation through discipleship. I believe that if I put down roots in the place that God tells me to and if I seek Him daily with all my heart; reading His word and spending time with Him, transformation will occur in my life without me seeking it through experience. In this scenario, my life becomes an “experience” of transformation through living day by day with an exceptional Christ.

People who seek transformation through experience often remind me of a potted plant rather than a planted tree. Potted plants are moved from one “hot spot” to another in an effort to see them grow, yet their potential for growth is inherently limited due to the fact that they are not planted. You grow best if you are planted, enduring the seasons with grace and humility.

Psalm 1 describes this type of transformation:

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth its fruit in its season, whose leaf also shall not wither; and whatever he does shall prosper.

Get into the place that God has for you and put down roots and begin to grow. No farmer plants a seed on Saturday and goes out Sunday and is disappointed because they see no growth. Growth is a process that happens through nurture and resistance.

Potted plants have limited potential but a tree planted by living water will provide shade for generations!