“When tempted, no one should say, ‘God is tempting me.'” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” James 1:13-15
God did not send along that thing or person in your life which is tempting you to sin. No matter how much it “seems” to be meeting a need; no matter how much you are attached to it emotionally – if it is enticing you to sin, it is not from God.
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:17
But, you say, the thing/person in my life is good, it helps me in some way, so it must be from God. Gifts from God are perfect in character; that is they are gifts given that are intended to lead us closer to Him and not farther away. God does not tell us not to sin and then send something along that entices us to do that exact thing! He does not change like shifting shadows – one day this way, the next, this way.
It you are doing evil, it is because a desire in you has turned to evil for its fulfillment. You have allowed yourself to be dragged away from the truth of the Word and the all sufficiency of God and are depending upon an object/person to meet your desire. Continuing to allow this enticing object/person to be your focus causes evil to conceive and give birth to action – sinful action.
And, if you allow this action to continue – to say, “I will do what I want”, then immediately, spiritual death sets in, a sense of separation from God and soon, it will be followed by emotional death – the slow process of the loss of sensitivity.
“So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.” Ephesians 4:17-19
Continuing in behavior that seeks to meet needs/desires through sinful actions causes us to lose sensitivity to God’s voice. Excusing harmful behavior leads to excusing more harmful behavior. You are ruled by what controls you.
My advice – If there is something in your life that looks like it will meet a need/desire but it requires sin as its price, avoid it! That is not a solution sent by God. If you already have a similar situation going on, change it immediately! God will provide for all your needs and desires according to His riches in glory and these solutions will not be laced with poison!
I’m praying for you today. You can do this! As your fellow traveler in this life, I encourage you – don’t allow counterfeit solutions and past or present failures stop you from receiving what is best for you.
Kick the habit of depending upon “counterfeits” and pick up the Jesus habit! You’ll be glad you did!